How come??? Both genders answer, please?

I know I'm gonna get a lot of hate and mean answers and I really don't mind because you know what? It's about time that someone spoke out about and against this, so here I go...
Well, for starters, I am not some skinny/slim/slender girl pissed that heavier girls are getting more attention. I am 5' 1 1/2", 14 almost 15, Puerto Rican (genetics sometimes have to do with the way your body is built), and 118.4 lbs, so no I'm not slender. And I'm also not chubby. I have a muffin top jiggly jell-o bell-o and a big butt and up-and-out-ward A-cup breasts so they look bigger. I guess most people would think that I'm in the "Why do you care? It's not your problem" category, like in wars. (<-- Just an anology I thought of off the top of my head.) I have a curvy physique but am not chubby but do not have a flat&&toned tummy. (BTW, is it possible for me to tone my butt without it losing it's big-ness? Lol. The guys like it but I wanna start working on getting a healthy toned butt now so that when I'm 30 it's not all jiggly and hanging out there. Lol. And I'm working on getting a flat stomach now but not some body-builder crap. Lol.)

Well, I was reading someone's blog and they were talking about how "big" is back. Big as in "curvy". Which nowadays is code for "fat". (A REAL curvy figure has slender waist, flat stomach, cellulite free, nice shoulders and ankles, and good pair of arms along with that hour-glass shape coming from the bust and butt.) They used full-grown adult woman sizes 8, 12, and 14. They said 41% of women preffered the size 12 model and saw her as their ideal woman's physique. But, the problem is that all 3 models were almost 6 feet tall, and everyone knows that a tall woman at size 12 won't show you how unhealthy it is for an adult woman at an average height (which is 5'5" to 5'8") to be that size. That as a size 12 would look ugh...
The slimmest model was a size 8 but since she was almost 6 feet tall, she looked very slim&thin. Same deal with the size 12 model scenario I just described -_- 8, in my opinion, is the farthest (I was gonna use another word but thought some might get offended and that really is not my point in this) an average adult woman should reach. That would look okay on a regular woman.
----Questions----
Why do people look at an anorexic chick and tell them they have a problem but look over at the overweight girl gorging herself and say nothing? How come if you say something about overweight people you are marked as a "horrible person" but if you criticize an anorexic everyone jumps on board? Why would guys rather be with a girl who runs a higher risk of heart disease/heart attack/cardiac arrest/ stroke/ diabetes thann with a girl who will last them their whole life? Why can't people realize you can have a curvy figure and be slim at the same time? After all, isn't it just the curves that matter? Not slim as in bones jutting out and not curvy as in 200 lbs. and cellulite dimples all over your rear. You can have a real curvy physique but have a small waist and flat stomach.


Ugh... I have a nice body but don't like the jiggly tummy and want to get my butt in shape for after child-birth years. But I can do that without becoming a bean-pole stick.So how come so many people tell me to stay the way I am if I am not comfortable with it? I just wanna drop like 10 lbs.I can look the same way I do now but healthier. Since when has society become a bunch of teeny weeny widdle chubby *****?

BTW, "slim" and "skinny" and "slender" and "thin" does not mean anorexic or stick. You can be slim AND have a nice figure. I'm gonna prove it once I show up back to school when summer's over!